Welcome to the weekly goals review. This is where I will complete a review of my prior week’s goals as well as setting a new round for the upcoming week. I’m glad to have you on board. Are you working on your Sanity Plan?
Weekly Goals Review
- Positive parenting: Spend this week working on my daughter’s demanding behavior.
I’m going to have to call this one a work in progress. I made some headway in her demanding behavior such as repeating herself until she got what she wanted, but there is more work to do. I am going to leave this goal for this coming week. Lesson learned: Some goals are more intricate than others. I could take this as a failure if I were to be really literal about it, but I’d rather see it as a goal that needs more love.
2. Quality hubby time: Put the kids to bed and enjoy a night cap on the back deck.
Well, this one was a little rough also. When the kids are out of sorts, it indefinitely leads to us being out of sorts as a couple. I did initiate a quiet moment outside that didn’t end well because we were frustrated with each other, however, we did finally have a really successful honest conversation on Saturday night that made up for it. Lesson learned: Just because we are struggling with the kids’ behavior, does not justify us turning on each other. We are a parenting team.
3. Personal care: Drink an extra glass of water in the afternoon.
I didn’t do this every day, however, just having the goal did increase how much water I drank. Can I blame it on my reminder app not going off at the appropriate time? Lesson learned: I didn’t set this reminder until Thursday, so I missed a couple of days. I will need to set reminders right away when I’m thinking of them, otherwise they get overlooked.
4. Organization: Put things where they belong.
I made some good strides in this department: unpacking the kids’ clothes and taking a look around to make sure that I put away things in their correct location. I am nowhere near perfect, but I can see the improvement. Lesson learned: Hubby did not see my efforts to improve this so the lesson is judge yourself based on marked improvements, don’t be discouraged if others cannot see your changes right away.
5. Work/Life Balance: Plan my new writing schedule.
Done. I will be writing in the mornings, during coordinated nap-times, and have worked out with my husband that he will watch the kids for two nights so that I can work as well. Lesson learned: This schedule is a loose framework because of our current setup, but I will be working to stay as firm with it as possible. Also, it is important to ask for help from my husband to be sure that I have dedicated time for my business (otherwise it won’t happen).
This Week’s Goals
Here are my goals for this week based on my 5 improvement areas:
- Positive parenting: Spend this week working on the kids’ demanding behavior.
REPEAT THIS GOAL, ADDING MY SON AS WELL. We’ve realized that our kids are feeling really out of sorts because of the changes to our routine. They are both having a particularly hard time with entertaining themselves because in our previous structure they had a lot more people entertaining them. I will be working to stretch them with a mix of guided and autonomous activities to see if that will help their behavior.
2. Quality hubby time: Date night on Saturday and look for a temporary sitter.
My mother in law will be giving us a break on Saturday so we can go out for a romantic dinner. I will make sure to leave conversation about the kids at home so we can talk about us. We also need a sitter to help spell us at least once a week for the rest of our trip.
3. Personal care: Do yoga with the kids in the mornings.
My back is quite out of whack and I’ve been wanting to get into a yoga practice. I will initiate one that the kids can do with me this week. We’ll see how it goes….
4. Organization: Put things where they belong.
REPEATING THIS GOAL. I still need more practice to turn this into a habit. It’s really hard for me to do in the moment, but just taking a look around to see what I can put away has been helpful.
5. Work/Life Balance: When I’ve completed my goals, I will walk away from my computer.
This past week I found that I really lingered at the computer, even after I’d gotten work done. I am going to make an effort instead to unplug when I am done. I think it will help improve both my mentality and the kids’ behavior so they don’t feel like they need to compete for my attention.
This past week was rough. When the kids are having trouble it tends to really disrupt my rhythms. In addition, I was struggling with a couple of emotions of my own and feeling a bit insecure. Sharing these feelings with my husband really helped put it into perspective and provided an opportunity for us to reconnect.
How are you doing with your Sanity Plan? What are your goals for the coming week? Did you notice any particular barriers to completing what you wanted to get done?