Welcome to the weekly goals review. This is where I will complete a review of my prior week’s goals as well as setting a new round for the upcoming week. I’m glad to have you on board. Are you working on your Sanity Plan?
Weekly Goals Review
- Positive parenting: Allow for extra time and patience for the kids due to transitions.
I actually did pretty well with this. It was definitely harder at the end of the week, though, after a long week of cleaning up from the party, packing for our trip, and solo parenting. Lesson learned: Having this as a concrete goal really helped me to remain conscious of how I wanted to treat the kids as well as keeping in mind what they might be experiencing.
2. Quality hubby time: Take time to have a deeper conversation.
We had a unusual opportunity after the party to sit down and talk about life together with no kids and no interruptions. He shared with me that he’s been feeling overwhelmed and distracted and I felt closer to him as we talked it through. Lesson learned: Every time we talk this way, I am reminded of why I fell in love with my husband in the first place – it’s such an important goal for me to continue to bond with him in this way.
3. Personal care: Get back on board with taking my morning medication.
Done. Lesson learned: This was strictly a mindset change. I’d been giving myself too many excuses to skip it and now I am back to the idea that it is critical and it comes first, even before getting up to get my son.
4. Organization: Pack early.
I would have been done… except for the fact that my husband bumped up his departure time by a day.
5. Work/Life Balance: Begin new copywriting gig.
Done. This one was a little precarious because our sitter called out. But, I worked it out with my husband that he would take the kids after dinner so I could have devoted time to work. I could have tried to do it during the day while juggling the kids, but I am learning that I really need focused and uninterrupted time, especially when learning something new. Lesson learned: When it comes to balance, it is important to evaluate your needs and find a way to meet them, even if that means asking for help.
This Week’s Goals
Here are my goals for this week based on my 5 improvement areas:
- Positive parenting: Spend this week working on my daughter’s demanding behavior.
Our four year old daughter’s “demanding” behavior has been escalating this past week. It could be related to the transitions I discussed above, but I’d like to spend some time working with her on it. I will observe the behavior and see if I can determine some causal factors, and then develop a couple of key strategies to handle it. I’ll likely write a post on this coming soon.
2. Quality hubby time: Put the kids to bed and enjoy a night cap on the back deck.
Now that we’ve settled into our rental, I’ll coordinate an evening where we put the littles down on time and get the teen to do something solo so we can enjoy some husband and wife time. One of the things that’s hard about having older children who stay up later is that they are often up until you go to bed. I’ve found I actually need to create strategies to work around this to still have quality time with my husband.
3. Personal care: Drink an extra glass of water in the afternoon.
Another habit I’d like to improve on is drinking more water. I don’t like to drink liquids with my meals, so I’ve been needing to find another time that I can drink a full glass of water on a somewhat empty stomach. It was really helpful for me to use a cell phone reminder when I did the doorway stretches, so I’m going to set a reminder for 3 p.m. every day to drink water.
4. Organization: Put things where they belong.
I have a confession to make: I never put anything where it belongs. I often wander about putting things down in all sorts of places. I mean, I barely even remember to close cabinet or pantry doors when I’m done using them. Since we are in a rental, with a whole lot less “stuff,” I think it will be good to begin to implement some better organizational habits. This week, I will focus on creating homes for “things,” and putting everything where it belongs. This one’s really hard for me, wish me luck!
5. Work/Life Balance: Plan my new writing schedule.
Our situation has changed quite a bit. We are in a temporary location where I do not have help with the kids. I am willing to relax my writing goals somewhat, but I want to establish some routines so that I can have undivided work time with set goals of what I want to accomplish. Since my husband has to work during the day, I will likely be taking a couple of evenings per week to write, in addition to nap times, but I want to test and establish the schedule this week.
I had a really hard time coming up with ways to reconnect with my husband, which tells me that it has really not been on my mind. I am very involved with the kids and my writing, but my relationship with my husband is so important as well (I mean, we did commit to an entire lifetime together!). I am glad I have this as a goal, because it really has fallen by the wayside with the kids, despite our best intention that we weren’t going to let it. This week is still pretty transitional, as we get used to our vacation home, so I want to keep it easy while we all acclimate.
How are you doing with your Sanity Plan? What are your goals for the coming week? Did you notice any particular barriers to completing what you wanted to get done?