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Financial Sanity – One Simple Habit That Can Save You Money

November 27, 2017 By Sara M. Leave a Comment

If saving money is a part of your Sanity Plan, this post is for you.

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I find a big portion of our financial lives to be habitual. Do you head straight for the sale rack or do you peruse the non-sale items first? Do you plan your purchases ahead of time or buy things on a whim? Do you review receipts to make sure pricing is correct or stuff the receipt in your pocket without even looking?

Over the course of a lifetime, these habits can really impact how much you spend, and therefore, how much you save.

I could discuss many, many habits but this one simple habit has saved me a lot of money recently:

The habit of asking.

What do I mean by this?

Just a simple question is often enough to get a better price. Such as: “Is this the best you can do?” or “Do you offer any discounts?” or “Are there any available promotions?”

Often a polite inquiry about a product that isn’t working for you can get you a refund or an alternative solution. “Is this how it is supposed to work?”

I’ve been doing it a long time and this habit clearly goes back to my youth. My father, the king of the hard bargain, taught me. I distinctly recall his haggling for all sorts of things, from cars to insurance to… actually, basically everything.

 

Recent Ways I’ve Saved Money

Crockpot

I have owned my beloved red 4 qt Crockpot for more than 10 years. When the handle broke, I was reluctant to replace the whole unit because it just seemed like a waste. Instead, I found replacement parts online: lids for about $15 and handles for about $5. Neither came in red. On a whim I looked up Crockpot and emailed their support group to ask if there was a way that I could purchase a red replacement lid for my model. In less than a day, they responded that my model (and therefore it’s lid) was no longer in production. They generously offered to send an entirely new Crockpot in white.

Honest Company

I have had a diaper and wipes subscription with Honest Company for almost 5 years (two kids in diapers, back to back). Recently, after their whole wipes debacle, I received two rounds of their replacement wipes, which were so bad that my husband demanded that I cancel the subscription. A quick phone call to Honest Support was all it took to ask what was going on with the wipes. Were these temporary? Would they be going back to their better wipes now that they resolved the mold issue? The answer: Yes, and an offer to replace all the interim wipes that had been difficult to use – even though we had used 75% of them.

Amazon

Amazon has amazing customer service. They have quickly and efficiently solved almost every order problem I’ve ever had. They have even jumped in to help handle errors with products sold by 3rd party sellers on their site. Recently, I was having trouble with one of the items in my baby registry. There was incorrect pricing and a long shipping delay. After speaking with their registry department about the trouble I was having, they agreed to adjust the price and provide a shipping workaround. Why? Because I asked.

Local Gymnastics Club

My stepdaughter asked to sign up for gymnastics this season, with the intention of trying out for cheerleading next year. Two weeks into the paid-for 8 week session, she made the decision that she did not want to do it anymore (TEENS!). I was hesitant to ask about this one because their policy was not to refund any classes within a session because they offer a trial. But, I politely asked if it was possible, especially since both of my youngest children also take tumbling classes there and any credit could be applied to their accounts. And here again, the answer was yes.

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While I have had a lot of success with this financial habit, it does not always work. I just inquired about a pair of toddler shoes from See Kai Run that fell apart after 3 wears (which is very unusual, See Kai Run is one of my favorite brands). In this case, the representative said there was nothing they could do because I’d bought them well in advance and the one-year warranty had passed. Another time I emailed a toy company to ask if there were parts I could purchase for an item bought secondhand. Unfortunately, they no longer manufactured that particular toy.

work from homeBut the point is, that I have established the simple habit of asking. It works more often than not, and frequently takes less than 5 minutes of my time to look up a website, grab a customer service email, and shoot off a quick note.

Now there are lots of reasons I can think of why people don’t do it. They don’t have time to deal with it. Negotiating is stressful. They don’t want to be a pain. They just feel nervous to ask. Let me tell you: I feel this way, too.

But here’s the kicker. The worst thing that can happen is that they’ll say ‘no.’ And that’s not the end of the world, now, is it?

Best case scenario is you’ve saved yourself some money on a product or service or gotten a solution for something that didn’t work for you.

Now, the next step is to take whatever money you saved and put it aside instead of absorbing it by spending the surplus. But that is a discussion for another day.

Do you do this? If not, what kinds of excuses keep you from asking?

Filed Under: Finances Tagged With: change, habits, money, saving money

Healthy Eating Is a Journey

September 27, 2017 By Sara M. 17 Comments

healthy foodEating healthy seems to be a recurring theme among my family and friends recently:

My sister had a flareup of her major chronic stomach disorder. A friend of mine told me she’d heard that sugar might potentially be more damaging that fat (which I totally believe). Another friend and I were discussing the overwhelming amount of “food rules” we were hearing about: cutting down on dairy, avoiding certain nuts, going gluten-free, etc.

My mind swims with all of the healthy eating trends. I feel inundated by the constant barrage of “eat this” and “don’t eat that.” “This is good for you” and “this is terrible for you.” How do you eat that? Is _______ still a part of your diet?

I feel panicked that I need to stop everything and rethink my eating habits. But then I remember how far I’ve come. I remember how far we’ve come as a family.

Eating healthfully is about progress not perfection.

Over the past 10 years, I’ve been on a journey to improve my eating habits.

Soda & High Calorie Beverages

The first major change was cutting out soda. Between the high sugar content, calories, and the chemicals found in common sodas, I decided it had to go. I learned to substitute for seltzer when I still craved that bubbly taste. And even that evolved, when I switched from drinking seltzer with sodium and synthetic sweeteners to a brand with no sodium and natural flavoring.

Fast Food

Next to go was high calorie, super salty fast food. I realized that in order to make food as cheaply as they do, fast food chains must use pretty low quality ingredients. Plus, the very nature of fast food really encouraged me to eat on the run, which lead to unconscious eating and poor digestion. I make two exceptions, Panera Bread (although I am cutting back due to high calorie content) and a quick pre-packaged sandwich from places like Starbucks. I am also very likely to stop for a yogurt or a granola bar to tide me over until I can get home for a real meal.

Alcohol

Then we began drinking less. In addition to the useless calories, I was also turned off by the fact that alcohol turns into sugar in your body. And as I’ve aged, I have definitely become less tolerant of large quantities of alcohol. A second glass of wine has been known to give me a hangover, no matter how much water I drink.

Red Meat

Cutting back on red meat was tough, but all of the evidence was pointing to the fact that Americans eat way too much. I can go a few days without red meat, but my body really craves it if I go any longer than that. Even cutting back to 2 or 3 times a week is a huge improvement for our family. One added bonus was a reduction in our grocery bill as red meats can really add up.

Pre-Packaged Foods

We worked to reduce our consumption of pre-packaged foods. This one is hard to balance because it takes time to prepare foods from scratch. I am a SAHM now, but if I went back to work full time, we’d really need to figure out how to continue this habit. Occasional exceptions to the rule include: pre-made ravioli, baked beans, Kraft macaroni & cheese, etc.

Added Sugar

Sugar is EVERYWHERE! This was is really hard to do since it seems that most products have added sugar. And sometimes even switching to sugar free was difficult because we were so used the taste of certain things with sugar. Some of the big ones have been low sugar yogurt, sugar-free peanut butter, and sugar-free tomato sauce. If we choose a product that has sugar we opt for one that uses real sugar as opposed to high fructose corn syrup. We also avoid artificial sweeteners due to their high chemical content and questionable effects on the body.

Full Fat Dairy

I read a study review years ago that highlighted that the common recommendation of switching to low fat dairy products due to curb obesity concerns was actually having the opposite effect. The body does better consuming full fat products, because a) fat isn’t as bad as we thought, and b) consuming full fat allows us to feel fuller faster as opposed to being deceptively empty from reduced fat content. As a result, we’ve switched to full fat dairy wherever available (although some categories are difficult).

healthy dinnerProtein Portion

We realized we were eating way too much meat and that oftentimes meat was the main focus of the meal. Instead, we are making some vegetarian meals, as well as cutting back the meat to a much smaller percentage of the whole meal.

Organic Foods

As we’ve had more expendable incomes, we have slowly been able to switch to more and more organic products, especially meats, dairy, and produce. Not yet at 100% organic, our goal is to continue to improve in this area, especially as more products become available and the cost decreases with demand.

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Actually writing this list helps me realize just how far we’ve come. And I know that we will continue to adjust and make improvements over time. Eating right is an important theme in our lives and we will continue to learn from new research and trends.

It is important to consider that trends aren’t always right (as in the trend to eat sugar as opposed to fats) and that many people (and companies!) have an agenda when it comes to espousing food rules. They are trying to profit in some way by encouraging changes in your eating habits.

So, before I give up cheese (gasp!) or bread (gluten) or anything else, or allow myself to get stressed over the endless rules being tossed about, I will stop and remember how much progress I’ve made from the girl who used to live on Ramen noodles and the McDonald’s dollar menu.

It’s a journey, like most health related habits. It’s impractical, (virtually impossible) to expect to change everything at once.

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Filed Under: Wellbeing Tagged With: change, eating, habits, health, healthy

When a Big Change Fills Your Heart with Dread

January 12, 2017 By Sara M. 9 Comments

movingMy husband wants to move. Well, actually we both *want* to move but the whole prospect is a bit terrifying for me.

There are so many good reasons for us to move. We are literally looking at only moving one town over to a neighborhood with a superior school district. We would be able to save money by taking our teen out of private school, and the youngest kids will be on a public-school tract for their full K-12 educations. We’ll be able to find a property that better suits our needs: a house with a layout that has more dedicated functional space. Right now, we have two useless rooms with no doors and a basement below grade that no one likes to go in unless we are watching a movie.

So, there are many good reasons for us to make this change. Yet, I am dreading the idea of actually picking up and doing it.

My husband is so excited. He is usually the first to jump on board with any changes. He loves to get up and go, without a second look back (and I’m not just referring to moving). But now, I’ve gotten to the point that every time he even brings up this subject, my heart sinks. It reached a peak over the weekend when he picked out several properties online and asked me twice to come and take a look at them. Each time I came up with excuses for why I didn’t have time to look at the houses. Because I feel like I just can’t go there right now.

I feel so overwhelmed by the thought of moving. The incredibly long process of house hunting is quite painful for someone like me who hates making decisions. Then, there is the grueling process of obtaining a mortgage, with endless documents to obtain and financial decisions to make. Everything about moving is decision overload.

But the worst part by far, is the idea of packing, moving, unpacking, and setting up a brand-new home. I am completely stalled with fear when I think of all of the work it will take to move everything we own. There are things I haven’t even unpacked from when we moved here, and we’ve lived here for 5 years last month. It has literally taken me years, partially delayed by having two babies, to decorate and personalize this home.

Why do I feel this way about moving? I’ve moved my whole life. House after house, different school systems, different states, different countries even. I am so tired of moving and changing everything and starting new. Despite all of the good reasons we have to move, I am really struggling to get over this serious pit in my stomach at the thought of all the change.

girl twirlingI have become deeply sentimental about this home that we’ve created. We brought both of our children home from the hospital to this house. Especially around the holidays, I am overwhelmed with joy remembering the traditions we have worked so hard to create here. If we moved within a year, I am not sure that either of our young ones will remember this house beyond what they see in pictures.

I feel guilty for being so negative. I am scared that my unwillingness to jump on board with the idea is putting a damper on my husband’s excitement. I feel as though I should be grateful to be able to afford to move to a different home that will better suit our family. Yet, here I sit, wanting to dig my feet into the ground. Staking my place here, refusing to budge unless forcibly removed. I am mixed with fear of the work and the loss of the beautiful memories we’ve made.

I will miss the friendships we’ve made in this neighborhood, and I am nervous about making new ones. I think this is partially from knowing the truth that lots of friends fall away when you move. There are good intentions to stay in touch, but in this modern world if it is not incredibly convenient, it just doesn’t seem to happen.

This is what I am going to have to work through. I need to sit down and explain these feelings to my husband, and we can decide together how to handle each one. I know he will understand, and that my feelings shouldn’t keep us from actually making this step. But I need to honor them, find perspective on each of my struggles, and create a plan to make this move as successful as possible.

Filed Under: Personal, Relationships Tagged With: change, childhood, fear, friends, marriage, moving, relationships

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