I wonder how many people set goals and then completely forget about them? I am completely guilty of that this year. I actually had to look back at this post to remember the exact goals I committed to when we set them together as a family at the beginning of the year.
Over the weekend, I gathered the family to do a mid-year check in on our goals. And my husband and stepdaughter have really been doing a great job at focusing on each of their goals (as opposed to me).
Here is our update:
The toddler was going to be potty-trained… well, technically that’s a goal for me and it hasn’t happened yet. However, it has been on my mind to start now that our hectic spring/summer schedule has calmed down. I didn’t want to start training while we were traveling and had very few days at home in between.
The preschooler wanted to paint more and she has! I’ve streamlined the process by organizing all the supplies, making it much easier to get it out and put it away when we are done.
The teen had two goals: to “discover” and be true to herself. Talk about a difficult task. I am 37 and I still feel like I struggle with those goals. She has been doing a great job of this, to the point that we are even able to see this in her as her parents. She worked her way through some difficult friendships this year and even cut ties with a few people. She has been defining what activities interest her, making the decision to continue dancing as well as perhaps trying cheer-leading in high school. On a side note: we are very proud of her as parents because we’ve really gotten the chance to watch her blossom as she turned 14 and completed junior high.
My husband’s goals were: to clear out “stuff” and finish old projects. He has been getting rid of tons of old equipment he had laying around by selling it on specialized online forums. We opted not to do our annual neighborhood yard sale in May because we haven’t typically gotten what items are really worth. As for finishing old projects, we’ve been working on some filing/paperwork for his business, completing landscaping, and getting the house ready for sale.
My goals were: to transition to a career in writing and completely destress. Looking back at the past 6 months, I can definitely see how I’ve lost motivation when it comes to writing. First of all, I was sick until well into the second trimester, which really made it difficult to be creative and stay committed to writing. Secondarily, I am really up in the air about whether I actually want to have a freelance “career.” As I told my husband recently, I do see myself as a writer, I have always been a writer, and now that I’ve rediscovered the passion it will always be a part of my life. BUT, I am not sure it will be my everything. That said, I really do need to get in gear on my children’s book idea as well as fleshing out two new ideas I have for non-fiction books.
As for destressing… I would say I’ve done better at that than the writing. I feel as though I have been settling down more into this life of motherhood. I think getting pregnant again and launching back into that new baby cycle, I realized that there is not a whole lot I am going to have time for other than parenting. I have a lot less angst about my career and my goals than I used to. On top of that, I have been working hard to not overcommit and to take time for myself. One big change I made this year was to take an evening or two per week just to catch up on me-time by reading or watching my own TV shows or even just going to bed early. In the past, I felt so obligated to do more family time, but since I was with the kids all day, I was never really getting the chance to wind down myself.
So, how are you doing with your resolutions? How do you remind yourself of your goals throughout the year?